Yesterday I did something really stupid – again. It’s a mistake I’ve made many times before, and each time I make it I beat myself up about it. Today, I woke up and realized I needed a healthy dose of self-forgiveness (along with some better choices in the future), so I decided to find some quotes on self-forgiveness, because I really, really needed to read them. They helped! If you are in the same boat as me, and need a healthy dose of self-forgiveness, then keep reading.
1. Learning Self-Forgiveness Is A Must!
There are only 2 two ways to have a peaceful conscience: Never do anything wrong or learn self-forgiveness (Pro tip: first way’s impossible) – Elizabeth Gilbert
Elizabeth Gilbert is so full of life-learned wisdom, and this bit of advice is ringing so true to me right now! I’m human. I’m not perfect. I’m going to do things wrong and make bad choices.
Of course, that’s not an excuse to go out and make bad choice after bad choice. I want to learn from my mistakes and not repeat them. But, some lessons are harder to learn than others. So, I need to practice self-forgiveness, go forward with the conviction that I won’t make the same mistake twice, and then do everything in my power to make sure I don’t!
2. I Don’t Want To Look Back With Regret
I regret spending years of my life regretting things! Self-forgiveness is loving yourself. – Sinitta
I’m 5 months away from the age of 40. It seems that I’ve hit a point in life where I do more reflecting on things.
For instance, I worry that I won’t do enough with the rest of my life. I really don’t want it to go by as fast as it did for the first 40 years. And, I don’t want to waste a moment of my time beating myself up over something that is so meaningless in the grand scheme of things.
As Sinitta said, I regret spending so much time regretting things! That’s why self-forgiveness is so important. I don’t want to waste any more time on things like regret and look back 40 years from now feeling the same way I do now.
In short, I need to forgive myself so that I don’t live with that feeling of regret for a moment longer. I want my life to be full of satisfaction, peace, and happiness.
3. Meditation Tip For Practicing Self-Forgiveness
Try practicing self-forgiveness with Loving Kindness Meditation (or Metta), which increases positive emotions and happiness! – Rebecca Scritchfield
I’ve written a lot about happiness, and I have never heard of the Loving Kindness Meditation until I was looking for quotes on forgiveness. I’m so glad I found this concept.
The Loving Kindness Meditation is all about directing good wishes towards yourself and other people. I found that this meditation just puts you in a better frame of mind – one of compassion, including self-compassion and acceptance. I came out of it feeling really good about myself, other people, and the world around me. Try it out for yourself!
4. Create A Better Life Through Self-Forgiveness
The only true way to create a more loving, productive, and fulfilling life is by forgiving the past. – Iyanla Vanzant
As we already talked about, not practicing self-forgiveness will get us stuck in a state of regret that we will eventually regret! But, the fact is that if we want a more productive and fulfilling life, we need to forgive and move on from the past. Otherwise, we are just hanging on to those things that are no longer relevant and letting them influence our life by reducing productivity, reducing a loving existence, and reducing fulfillment.
I don’t know about you, but I want my life to be fulfilling and have a purpose. I want to use my moments to create a better life and more happiness and more love. So this will be a great quote to remember the next time I feel a tinge of regret coming on.
5. Give Up Hope That It Could Have Been Any Different
“Forgiving is giving up the hope that it couldn’t have been any other way than it actually was.” – Oprah Winfrey
Oprah says that understanding this simple fact helped her to be a better person. And I can see how.
I think if we can all buy into the belief that we are not forgiving ourselves to say that it was alright, but, instead, we are forgiving to say that it couldn’t have been any other way, then we can stop holding onto the self-anger that we ‘should’ have done things differently.